No One is Looking for You. Sorry.
There are a number of websites out there that will help you re-connect with old friends. Usually for a fee, of course. Who’s looking for you? some of them even ask. Just sign up with them so your old friends can find you!
But, let’s face it. These services are largely for people looking to find someone in particular and not for people looking to be found.
After all, if you’re a blogger or have had any kind of online presence, you’re probably only a Google search away from being found. If anyone was looking for you, unless you’ve made a deliberate attempt to hide yourself online, they would have found you already.
But, instead we imagine that all these people are looking for us, and if we don’t sign up with a bunch of different websites, they’ll never find us.
It is perhaps a human tendency to view ourselves as the center of the universe. Everything revolves around us. That girl or guy you had a crush on in school, surely she or he is just sitting by the computer, waiting for your eMail. She or he hasn’t moved on; hasn’t gotten involved with anyone new; hasn’t progressed at all in life, because she or he has just been at a standstill, waiting to hear from you again. But, you’re not on the websites she or he is looking on, so you never hear a word.
Of course, the reality is that most people do move on. You may be the center of your universe, but they are the center of theirs. They’ve moved on. They’re not looking for you. They may not even remember your name.
Truth is, such websites may be good for nostalgia. They may be good to find someone and just talk about the “old days.” But, don’t delude yourself into thinking that anyone is longing for the opportunity to talk with you again. If they were, they would have found you by now.
Go ahead. Google yourself. If you haven’t heard from any old friends and you are easy to find, no one is looking for you!
Sorry.
Interesting observation Dan, heheh, it’s interesting to see many marketing techniques that actually attracts human ego…
building personal branding should start with the value that we bring to others. Sometimes we have to kind of forget about ourselves. That is the one that people will search, something that can feed their ego, as you said, people always think that they are the centre of universe.
I guess the site in a way argue that people can find you through your past affiliates, such as old school or working place. It’s a shortcut to be found in the internet also. Too bad, I won’t have a lot of frens from my country signing up… those are quite useless for me. These sites can be useful only if lots of people signing up.
Nice post =)
Robert
well…im back to say hello and thanks for dropping by my site.
hope all is well, dan!
and yep..i feel so MUCH better now. Lol
take care!!
I heard the mob was looking for you.
I heard Chyna is looking for you.